In Christ-Centered Counseling by Charles Solomon, the author talks about how to view the presenting problem. Here is some of what he has to say about the issue.
He states that the presenting problem is the reason the person seeks out counseling. This is what the person seeking counseling sees as the problem in his life. This is not always the case.
But many times after buying into what the counselee sees as the problem, we as disciplers set about to help remove this problem from the counselee’s life.
It could be a marital, financial, or job related issue. But what we don’t see and we do not understand is that this may be the very thing God is using to remove the self-life out of that person.
Galatians 6:2 tells us to bear one another’s burdens. It does not tell us to remove it completely.
We put ourselves between the person and God becoming an accomplice in trying to subvert God’s plan when we try to remove these burdens out of their life because these, many times, are the very things God is using to gain full surrender in the life of the disciple.